Abuse comes in many shapes and forms. While for some an abuse if more a physical nature, for others is oftentimes emotional. Truth be told, it does not take physical violence to abuse someone. It is, in fact, this hidden and indirect abuse that has people stressed out daily.
What is more, we often neglect or avid emotional and verbal abuse, even though we shouldn’t. Below, read why verbal abuse is considered just as bad as physical abuse.
What Kinds of Abuse are There?
Sadly, there are various forms of abuse, like:
- Emotional abuse
- Psychological abuse
- Domestic violence
- Financial abuse
- Physical abuse
- Abuse of the Elderly
- Sexual abuse
- Spiritual abuse
- Verbal abuse
Although all scary to even think of, verbal abuse stands out from the crowd, because of its sneakiness.
What are the Signs and Symptoms of Verbal Abuse?
Some of the indications of verbal abuse include, as follow:
- Plenty of daily stress
- Chronic fear
- Memory problems
- Eating irregularities
- Sleep issues
- Gastrointestinal disorders
- Teeth and jaw damage
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Hormonal imbalance
- Suicidal and self-harm tendencies
These signs are extra difficult to spot in marriages or other forms of romantic relationships.
What Is Considered Verbal Abuse?
As per the Legal Dictionary, verbal abuse represents ‘[the] repeated improper and excessive use of language to humiliate someone, or to undermine someone’s dignity.’ According to Patricia Evans, a known psychologist and writer, there are many evident scenarios of verbal abuse.
- Accusations and Shifting the Blame
In such cases, the abuser will convince his victim that he or she is responsible for things out of their power.
If the abuser withholds information, it leads to frustration in the other person.
Threats are verbal, which makes the terror in the other person bigger. Threats also indicate a lack of self-confidence and the will to dominate the weaker.
Debating is one thing, but when arguing on each and every little thing, it is likely to see this as verbal abuse.
Constantly disliking or disapproving of what the other person is doing and saying is a clear sign of verbal abuse.
Exaggerated reactions, like yelling and screaming are a tool for verbally dominating over someone else.
When the abuser is discounting his victim’s feelings, it actually also creates a deeper form of verbal abuse.
- Being Overly Critical or Judgmental
This abuse has similar to domestic violence, minus the physicality involved in the latter. Sometimes, being too critical or diminishing of someone else can be equally worse and more dangerous than physical violence.
- Insulting Nicknames
Name-calling is an abusive way to win control over someone. This also includes asking the victim offensive rhetorical questions, thus preventing them from answering.
- Jokes are Half the Truth
Verbal abuse oftentimes has the idea of a joke, with a meaner story behind it. This exposes victims even more, as they would be considered ‘silly’ arguing over a joke.
- Ignoring and Derailing
This is the situation in which the abuser decides the course of the confrontation. This takes power away from the other person, fueling the abuser with power.
Again, this puts the abuser in control, which puts the power of words into perspective.
If nothing is ever good enough for the abuser, he or she will show it with words. Everything will have its fault and nothing will ever meet their expectations.
Abusers don’t recall dates, numbers, or any information valuable to the other person. But, they not only forget these things, they could care less about it.
All abusers tend to defend themselves and find guilt in others. Abusers will never take credit for their wrongdoings and will never apologize.
None of these behaviors should be tolerated or allowed, so if you know anyone suffering verbal abuse – don’t hesitate to offer a helping hand.